What exactly makes a relationship modern? Where I live, there seems to be no such thing. In Salt Lake, regardless of religion or what side of town you grew up in, there's only one kind of relationship... The "We-Think-We're-In-Love-And-Getting-Married-At-21 (or in some cases even younger) Relationship."
In this kind of environment, what are two ex's-slash-best friends who don't believe in anything, let alone a healthy relationship, supposed to do? We decided the answer was something we would call "modern."
Let's cut for a little background. We met over four years ago. We dated, thought we'd fallen in love only to be reintroduced to reality, break up and become the best of inseparable friends. These days, we really do love each other, only it's in a way we can't find a label for.
Though, as comfortable as we are with an inexplainable relationship, the question of what we are exactly, has never stopped staring us in the face. How do we label what we feel is the most normal relationship either of us has ever had? We came to the conclusion that we'd have to make up our own idea. We decided on "modern."
To date who we want, when we want, all the while, never living without the other. We also factored in a Plan B: to get married at 40, just in case no one else finds us worthy.
It seems like a good enough explanation for us. I guess only time will tell how right about it all we were, which begs the question: which side has the right idea? Should we go on believing that love comes wrapped in a bow made of wedding bell embossed ribbon that we're supposed to rip open the second someone not entirely repulsive looks twice at us? Or do we take the cynical route and claim we don't believe in love, only back up plans so as not to die alone?
For two best friends from the west side who have watched enough friends get married, have kids, and hate their lives, the cynical route sounds like just the road trip we're hoped for all along.
K._.Rollin
Location:West Valley City , UT
